To this day I am still being abused. I thought that my abuser had been replaced by the man I fell in love with but I was wrong. He didn’t learn how to stop playing this game, he just learned how to play smarter to avoid being kicked out of the game. I feel manipulated and stupid. I know I must forgive myself. No point blaming myself for the characteristics of others. None of my actions made him act this way. Abuse is always a choice, his choice to twist my personality disorder into a weapon against me; his choice to break me down to tears everyday; his choice to stalk; his choice to play my forgiving heart against me. I’m starting to lose it. I can’t play this game anymore. I just want to be me again. I want to worry about things that are important to my life, not just trying to exist without crying for the day. I want to feel free again. Depression has brought me into such a suffocating, overwhelming, gloomy funk that I can barely get through work without anyone noticing. People are starting to avoid eye contact with me. Maybe it’s because I avoid theirs in the first place. I very much would like to switch over to mania right now. Depression has lasted too long and has been excruciatingly brutal to my mind. At least in hypo-mania I feel like I get stuff done. My mania isn’t me being intolerable to be around. I don’t get agitated any quicker than my normal patient self, I don’t spend ridiculous amounts of money anymore, etc. I learned to control it and see when it was coming on so I always directed the energy constructively. The old me used to punch walls, spend hundreds I didn’t have in a day just going out, be anxious. Now a days I like to write lists when it gets bad. I get things done that I avoided while in depression. I catch up on books and chores. I just wish I could constructively channel my energy again. I wish I were brave enough to drop this energy sucking vampire I married. I just want happiness. I need to be reborn into the woman I am meant to be. Things will get better once I learn how to take care of myseld again. I hope I can do it.
Thanks for listening to my venting.
Best wishes, pleasant vibes, always,
M